Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Tuesday, May 3, 2011
May Book Club: Snow Flower and the Secret Fan
Thanks everyone who came out tonight! It was a lot of fun. For those of you who couldn't make it, I do have a couple of copies left. Below are the Reader's Guide questions for this book. Hopefully they will spark some conversations at the next meeting.
1- In your opinion, is Lily, who is the narrator, the heroine or the villian? What are her flaws and her strengths?
2- Do you think the concepts of "old sames" exists today? Do you have an "old same" or are you part of a sworn sisterhood? In what ways are those relationships similar or different from the ones in nineteenth-century China?
3- Some men in nineteenth-century China apparently knew about nu shu, the secret women's writing described in Snow Flower. Why do you think they tolerated such private conversations?
4- Lily writes her story so that Snow Flower can read it in the afterworld. Do you think she tells her story in a convincing way so that Snow Flower can forgive and understand? Do you think Snow Flower would have told the story differently?
5- When Lily and Snow Flower are girls, they have one intimate-almost erotic- moment together. Do you think their relationship was sexual or, given the times, were they simply girls who say this only as an innocent extension of their friendship?
6- Having a wife with bound feet was a status symbol for men, and, consequently, having bound feet increased a women's chances of marriage into a wealthier household. Women took great pride in the feet, which were considered not only beautiful but also their best and most important feature. As a child, would you have fought against having your feet bound, as Third Sister did, knowing you would be consigned to a life of a servant or a "little daughter in law"? As a mother, would you have chosen to bind your daughter's feet?
7- The Chinese character for "mother love" consists of two parts: one meaning "pain" and the other meaning "love", In your own experience, from the perspective of a mother or a daughter, is there an element of truth to this description of mother love?
8- The author sees Snow Flower and the Secret Fan as a novel about love and regret, but do you think there's also an element of atonement as well?
9- In the story, we are told again and again that the women are weak and worthless. But were they really? In what ways did Lily and Snow Flower show their strength and value?
10- Although the story takes place in the nineteenth-century and seems very far removed from our lives - we don't have our feet bound - do you think we're still bound up in other ways; for instance, by career, family obligations, conventions of feminine beauty, or events beyond our control such as war, the economy and natural disasters?
11- Because of its phonetic nature, nu shu could easily be taken out of context and be misunderstood. Today, many of us communicate through e-mail, or instant messaging. Have you ever had an experience where one of your messages has been misunderstood because of lack of context, facial or body gestures, and tone of voice? Or have you ever been the receiving end of a message that you misinterpreted and your feelings were hurt?
12- Madame Wang, the matchmaker, is a foot-bound woman and yet she does business with men. How is she different from the other women in the story? Do you think she is considered a woman of status or is she merely a necessary evil?
1- In your opinion, is Lily, who is the narrator, the heroine or the villian? What are her flaws and her strengths?
2- Do you think the concepts of "old sames" exists today? Do you have an "old same" or are you part of a sworn sisterhood? In what ways are those relationships similar or different from the ones in nineteenth-century China?
3- Some men in nineteenth-century China apparently knew about nu shu, the secret women's writing described in Snow Flower. Why do you think they tolerated such private conversations?
4- Lily writes her story so that Snow Flower can read it in the afterworld. Do you think she tells her story in a convincing way so that Snow Flower can forgive and understand? Do you think Snow Flower would have told the story differently?
5- When Lily and Snow Flower are girls, they have one intimate-almost erotic- moment together. Do you think their relationship was sexual or, given the times, were they simply girls who say this only as an innocent extension of their friendship?
6- Having a wife with bound feet was a status symbol for men, and, consequently, having bound feet increased a women's chances of marriage into a wealthier household. Women took great pride in the feet, which were considered not only beautiful but also their best and most important feature. As a child, would you have fought against having your feet bound, as Third Sister did, knowing you would be consigned to a life of a servant or a "little daughter in law"? As a mother, would you have chosen to bind your daughter's feet?
7- The Chinese character for "mother love" consists of two parts: one meaning "pain" and the other meaning "love", In your own experience, from the perspective of a mother or a daughter, is there an element of truth to this description of mother love?
8- The author sees Snow Flower and the Secret Fan as a novel about love and regret, but do you think there's also an element of atonement as well?
9- In the story, we are told again and again that the women are weak and worthless. But were they really? In what ways did Lily and Snow Flower show their strength and value?
10- Although the story takes place in the nineteenth-century and seems very far removed from our lives - we don't have our feet bound - do you think we're still bound up in other ways; for instance, by career, family obligations, conventions of feminine beauty, or events beyond our control such as war, the economy and natural disasters?
11- Because of its phonetic nature, nu shu could easily be taken out of context and be misunderstood. Today, many of us communicate through e-mail, or instant messaging. Have you ever had an experience where one of your messages has been misunderstood because of lack of context, facial or body gestures, and tone of voice? Or have you ever been the receiving end of a message that you misinterpreted and your feelings were hurt?
12- Madame Wang, the matchmaker, is a foot-bound woman and yet she does business with men. How is she different from the other women in the story? Do you think she is considered a woman of status or is she merely a necessary evil?
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